My(23F) boyfriend (26M) says he can’t be better because of my past actions.

When he sees my reaction, he starts to tell me it's not a big deal, it's just a joke, don't get upset, etc. I calmly spit the food into my napkin, place the plate down and get up to leave. Everyone's gotten quiet at this point. His friends start apologizing saying it was their idea and my boyfriend starts telling me not to go. Fuck that! He is saying he didn't tell me because she was harassing him that she will break mine and his relationship so he took her on dinners to keep her attention away. Also that he did not cheat on me in any physical manner. Although he used to delete their chats. He says he never has any feelings for her. I am confused and loosing my mind on it.

2022.01.21 12:14 baikovans My(23F) boyfriend (26M) says he can’t be better because of my past actions.

I am in desperate need of second thoughts about the state of my relationship.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years, I'm 23 and he's 26.
So, I have a hard past with trauma and toxic relationships. When I started this relationship, I was healing from my past one. It was a recent breakup, we were not together as couple for some months but we stayed in that toxic cycle until april 2019. (Physical and verbal abuse)
I had already met my actual boyfriend and used to hang out with his group of friends (that one of my friends introduced me to so I would go out and forget my ex)
Everyone of their friends talked about how similiar we two were. They were basically trying to get us together, and it actually happened.
At first I really wanted to be alone for a while, but I started to see some things in him and all his friends talked about how he was so into me and wanted something serious. He seemed great, different from other guys, I gave him a chance.
I started to have real feelings for him and we made things at the end of May (2019).
It was a dream! I could not believe the horror I’ve experienced had brought me to that amazing guy, he was doing all those things for me I always wished for.
Not even two months passed from my last relationship. I was scared and I warned him first that I was a person with a lot of unhealed problems and that it could get hard being around me.
And so it did. I started having weird actions. Trauma that needed healing would come to surface sometimes. He was very into seeing his friend group everyday, and I would often ask him to stay home with me, and I would get mad if he did not. He would ask me to go and I mostly didnt want to and If I went i would talk badly about it and not seem really happy.
I was not in a good place. A lot of things happened, months passed, and he helped me heal A LOT! I realized so much of my inner problems that I thought were solved and were not. He became so tired of my shit. Of my meltdowns and burnouts. I would cry for silly things and I would want him to do things for me and if he didnt I would get mad and be mean.
I really learned a lot these past few years. I have grown. I forgot to mention that we practically live together since the beggining, first in our parents homes and then he moved in my own house.
The house is mine and he rarely contributes with anything, doesn’t pay bills, doesn’t cook, rarely cleans, doesn’t buy groceries…
It was the first time I was living by myself, and he was not meeting a lot of the house needs. He did some things, but if I told him to do more, he would complain and say "oh but I used to do this or that" instead of doing it.
He just changed from that amazing guy who did everything I wished and loved me right, to a man who seemed tired of me and my shit.
We almost broke up so many times, everytime he said he would leave, i ended up feeling guilty, because I felt like if things were not working it was my fault because of my issues, and he agrees with that.
That has gotten us till today.
Today he keeps claiming Im the main reason he is not the same man he was for me in the beggining. He claims he cannot be a better boyfriend, do house chores, cook meals, plan dates, etc, because of my temper. Because I sometimes talk loudly when Im mad for things that aren’t being done.
The months passed and this man I wanted to be with forever, have kids with, turned into a stranger. I know i love him, but he just does not feel like the same, because he does not show his love the same.
The emotion he shows most is tiredness. He makes an effort to see his friends a lot still, doesn’t like me to ask to go with him. I’ve begged him to take me (because I’m feeling alone) and the says no and leaves.
I cook meals, I clean the house, I buy groceries alone. I do all of this and usually feel overwhelmed and ask him for help, he always excuses himself with my temper and the way I ask things.
I seriously dont know what to do from here because I feel like I cannot become my best version if he keeps not being a better boyfriend for me because all my trauma dump in the beginning.
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The blazer was a CLEAR WINNER. I really, really suited it. The summer dress was wearing me. This kills me a little bit because I want to really get in touch with my feminine side, but I'm not dainty featured in the least haha. I'm 5'7", very fleshy pear shape (I'm a regular weight lifter... I look after myself with gym and healthy eating but I've always been and always will be that kind of pudgy renaissance painting body LOL) with a short black bob and somewhat angular features (very distinctive, 'regal' nose haha).
My best friend lent me a double-breasted, red trench jacket in a similar fashion to the above blazer and couldn't believe how much I suited it! She was willing to give me it, but it was too big for me unfortunately.
So, a few questions:
Why do I suit these 'sharp' styles?
Do these sharp lines come across as masculine? The two important parts of an outfit for me are accentuating my waist to highlight my curves, and showing some leg, because I love my long legs. I dread the thought of being confined to things like pant-suits because I suit them better. I wish I could suit more girly things. =\
I definitely think this is a huge discovery on how to dress myself, and I'd like advice to explore it further! :)
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